Salam dari Nijmegen!
Hello, I am coming back. I have been here for half week already. I got my new house to live for a year ahead and got a new friend of 21 y.o Dutch girl. She is soo talkative and asked me a lot of questions regarding what kind of life that I have.
Habis njelasin berbagai macam sisi kehidupan pribadi sebagai orang Jawa kepada bule Londo di sebuah rumah di area Muntweg. Si bule berujar:
“It’s really interesting, I want more talks with you. We have a very different way of life!”
“What?! You are married to somebody you never kissed him before? Don’t you think he was a stranger for you? If it’s me, I would think so, I’m not gonna married like that way."
(I told her that even some women get married to somebody they never meet or know before. They only get closer by virtual chat then simply get married and live together very well. The Dutch girl then said, "It's really crazy!")
"I'm atheist because everything happens in my life is logical for me, I can find some proof of everything that I wonder about with science. But, please don't get me wrong, I am an open minded person."
"As a Moslem, you wrap your hair with scarf because you think that a hair is sensual for others especially a guy. What do you think about face, then? A woman has beautiful face and might be as sensual as (or even more than) the other parts of body. Why don't you cover your face as well?"
(Hellooo, face is part of the communication media. If I cover it up, how would I talk well to other people? But that is why some Moslems wearing burqah, They just feel that it's necessary to cover their face when they are outside. But for me, that's too much. There's some rules that flexibly fit with the Moslems situation wherever they are. While scarf, or veil, or burqah may become part of culture in certain nation or country, but culture is part of religion in my point of view. Religion shouldn't be an opposite of culture.)
"What if I have thinking, the more a woman cover up their body, the more a man is curious about what's inside the cloth?"
(Ahahah.. that is the other thing of a likely situation. But for me, wearing hijab is more beneficial than not wearing it, at least I feel more secure when I am outside home. Don't forget that it's also a choice. Moreover, I believe that our Al-Qur'an and Hadits are the best guidance book for me. What are stated on those books are the best ways to follow. God has reason in making rules and I think, God is very logical. What seems illogical is something that I don't have any knowledge on it. Our mind is limited.)
"What do you think of other people here that don't have the same way like yours? Let's say, you know, people are hugging and kissing on the street, wearing very short clothes everywhere, and I am gonna invite a guy to watch movie in my room."
(I don't really care what people are doing here as long as they do not interfere with my life here. It's enough for me to just live comfortably here without thinking of how different are the people around me. Everybody is responsible for his own life.)
"I don't have idea why some people discriminate female and male in the way they choose to smoke. I am a feminist, you know. A woman is not as appropriate as a man to smoke, they say. It's unfair to make such judgment. I know that man and woman are different, but they should be equal. I am happy that I live in the Netherlands which enforces Human Rights quite well. The fact that woman can get pregnant, I know that. She can stop it for the sake of her baby. But in medical science, a man who smoke can decrease the level of his fertility."
(I don't know if that's a valid report because I do not see it in my family. My father is great smoker, but he raised 5 children. The definition of Human Right is still disscussable, I think.)
"Hey, I don't like Italian guy. They are exaggerating in expressing love. For me, that is not being gentle nor cool. Haha.."
"Anyway, you are married in very young age. How does it feel? I am going to get married on 29 and give a birth after 30. I think, I don't want to spend the rest of my life with a guy since a very young age like you."
(You forget that the average of life expectancy in every race or nation is different. The average in Indonesia is 71 y.o, while in The Netherlands is 81 y.o. So, 25 y.o is a common age to get married in my country. That is not that young. Well, having miles away distance with my husband makes me feel like single sometimes but I keep some principles to be obeyed by myself. I am glad that I can do that.)
dan banyak pertanyaan lainnya yang aku lupa~
di Muntweg
pukul 13.30
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