Begin With The End in Mind

Have you ever read this: “Begin with the end in mind” from Stephen Covey in one of 7 habits of highly effective people?

It is usual that everything happens twice. The first is in mind, the second is in reality. We reach our success’ as usual because we have aforethought before. “Begin with the end in mind” can also be a strategy of conflict management, especially to control ourselves.

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When we are in a hot temper, we shouldn’t be on the warpath then. We have to rethink about regret which certainly comes after exploding the anger. Exploding the anger is kind of the end. But by thinking about it twice in mind, we can keep the temper and egos longer. Our hearts interfere and our minds can open brightly afterwards. It is impossible that we have a chance to go back with the anger, only stupid person can do that because it is really no need to burst upon the anger again. The words that pass our lips without  passing the mind can influence our feelings. We have no reason to do that. We have no right to make others’ feeling bad. You know, what kind of success will we get? Creating peace, no conflict at all, balance situation. Those are the victory over the anger.

My father said that mouth is created most recently after mind, eyes, and ears. And it is only one mouth, not two or even three. Mouth is kind of sword. We may take our sword if only nothing else we can do, final decision.

I remember, in the case of situation where  two people get married, a husband should be really careful with his mouth. Mouth is really a sword is when the couple have a fight, it can trigger divorce where it isn’t necessary. I can’t understand why a couple who are still in love but wanting divorce. I think they just  escape for the problem. They think that each of them hasn’t found  a mate yet. You can read my opinion about mate here. First we want to marry with someone we love the most, we certainly pray for togetherness in limitless bittersweet moments, right? Because from that moment with that pray, God sends His helping hand as long as we ask Him. We should set our minds that person we marry with is our mates, final mates. There will be so much problems arise. Do bear it till the end and apply our sciences to solve the problem. That’s fate. No fate sets human become pointless. Human has ability to control efforts until the end. From that matter, we go through our journey. We make our own journey with God’s guidance. Day by day, problem arises greater and greater, we live our life better and better.

Mind, heart, and mouth are a set of tools to live our life better and better. We think and rethink so that mind and heart can be combined with synergistic. Just begin with the end in mind, and finally choose the best we can do to reach our glory and wisdom.