Jude: What romantic standard do you tolerate for two lovers?
Nih: I have no idea right now. Romance is a random little things that I find during the relationship. It's difficult to define or to remember. It just comes out sometimes without being planned. By given a flower, a kiss, or a compliment doesn't always mean a romance for me although I appreciate it.
Jude: I have a good question for you. If only you were forced in a situation that makes you have to choose a guy with different religion but he is so kind or a guy with the same religion but he is unkind, what do you prefer?
Nih: What? I don't think I will encounter that kind of situation in my life. It's impossible.
Jude: why impossible?
Nih: because I will just adore the former one and I will just keep myself away from the later one.
Jude: No no, you have to choose, I want you to imagine it.
Nih: Hmm.. It's complicated. I am not living in a drama. Are you a novelist? Haha..
Jude: ...just searching for some thoughts, well..
Nih: What about you?
Jude: You know me, you should know the answer. Surely I will choose the guy who is kind to me, no matter what kind of situation it is. Religion is no big deal for me.
Nih: Yeah.. It's unimaginable for me to answer your question because we have a very different life, culture, and perspective. I set a rule to myself that I will just get married with a guy who has the same religion as me, and of course a kind guy. If only I were in that situation, I prefer being single for the rest of my life, I think I will be happier by that way. And you can also imagine, that someday I'll surely meet the guy that fits my criteria, I think nature won't let me have no partner for that long. If I ever encounter that situation, I will count it as a temporary bad luck or bad dream, whatsoever.
Jude: So, that's how you escape, dealing with the situation..
Nih: Yup. Only if I were interested in a dramatic life, I would choose one of both situations. I might prefer the first one, because it's a matter of idealism, more intelligent than the second one. Who's a moron who wants to live with the unkind guy who lacks of conscience? She is throwing off her mind, I guess. But hey, I think this situation might happen if I live in the Netherlands, because you know, I am a stranger here, and the other people outside are quite stranger for me too. I live in Indonesia, and I have a huge opportunity to meet the guy who fits my criteria. Statistically speaking, I am sure there are a lot, around 30%, just a matter of choosing which one, then.
Jude: Why do you consider about religion so much? Is that a privacy? You are not going to force your partner to be religious, right? That's not wise.
Nih: That is why I consider about religion for choosing a life partner. Because, I don't want him to be religious because of me. I want him to be religious by his way without any offense from everybody else, including me as his partner. If he has the same religion as me, at least he is religious in a way that I can deal with. Most of all, I am a conflict avoider. I think, there would be many trivial things that could be the reasons to fight with each other if my partner has different religion, who knows. Why choosing that kind of life? I would be happier if I am single. Perhaps, you still cannot accept my reason, but it's just because we are different. I am practicing a religion, while you are not. You cannot imagine what the trivial things that can be the reason to fight... maybe not physical conflicts through the harsh words or something, but psychological conflicts that raise in your deep heart. That's it.
Jude: Do you think your life is complicated, or the other way around?
Nih: Although it's complicated, I choose to see it in a simple way. I have told you that I am not living in a drama. I just enjoy watching or reading a drama, but I am not going to let myself drown in a dramatic life. I will try to always deal with the situation, set my mind at ease and let everything go with the flow. I will hold the things that I can handle and let go of the things that I cannot handle. I think I am happy by that way.
Muntweg at 08.00 p.m.
Nih: I have no idea right now. Romance is a random little things that I find during the relationship. It's difficult to define or to remember. It just comes out sometimes without being planned. By given a flower, a kiss, or a compliment doesn't always mean a romance for me although I appreciate it.
Jude: I have a good question for you. If only you were forced in a situation that makes you have to choose a guy with different religion but he is so kind or a guy with the same religion but he is unkind, what do you prefer?
Nih: What? I don't think I will encounter that kind of situation in my life. It's impossible.
Jude: why impossible?
Nih: because I will just adore the former one and I will just keep myself away from the later one.
Jude: No no, you have to choose, I want you to imagine it.
Nih: Hmm.. It's complicated. I am not living in a drama. Are you a novelist? Haha..
Jude: ...just searching for some thoughts, well..
Nih: What about you?
Jude: You know me, you should know the answer. Surely I will choose the guy who is kind to me, no matter what kind of situation it is. Religion is no big deal for me.
Nih: Yeah.. It's unimaginable for me to answer your question because we have a very different life, culture, and perspective. I set a rule to myself that I will just get married with a guy who has the same religion as me, and of course a kind guy. If only I were in that situation, I prefer being single for the rest of my life, I think I will be happier by that way. And you can also imagine, that someday I'll surely meet the guy that fits my criteria, I think nature won't let me have no partner for that long. If I ever encounter that situation, I will count it as a temporary bad luck or bad dream, whatsoever.
Jude: So, that's how you escape, dealing with the situation..
Nih: Yup. Only if I were interested in a dramatic life, I would choose one of both situations. I might prefer the first one, because it's a matter of idealism, more intelligent than the second one. Who's a moron who wants to live with the unkind guy who lacks of conscience? She is throwing off her mind, I guess. But hey, I think this situation might happen if I live in the Netherlands, because you know, I am a stranger here, and the other people outside are quite stranger for me too. I live in Indonesia, and I have a huge opportunity to meet the guy who fits my criteria. Statistically speaking, I am sure there are a lot, around 30%, just a matter of choosing which one, then.
Jude: Why do you consider about religion so much? Is that a privacy? You are not going to force your partner to be religious, right? That's not wise.
Nih: That is why I consider about religion for choosing a life partner. Because, I don't want him to be religious because of me. I want him to be religious by his way without any offense from everybody else, including me as his partner. If he has the same religion as me, at least he is religious in a way that I can deal with. Most of all, I am a conflict avoider. I think, there would be many trivial things that could be the reasons to fight with each other if my partner has different religion, who knows. Why choosing that kind of life? I would be happier if I am single. Perhaps, you still cannot accept my reason, but it's just because we are different. I am practicing a religion, while you are not. You cannot imagine what the trivial things that can be the reason to fight... maybe not physical conflicts through the harsh words or something, but psychological conflicts that raise in your deep heart. That's it.
Jude: Do you think your life is complicated, or the other way around?
Nih: Although it's complicated, I choose to see it in a simple way. I have told you that I am not living in a drama. I just enjoy watching or reading a drama, but I am not going to let myself drown in a dramatic life. I will try to always deal with the situation, set my mind at ease and let everything go with the flow. I will hold the things that I can handle and let go of the things that I cannot handle. I think I am happy by that way.
Muntweg at 08.00 p.m.
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